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It's An Honor To Be Talked About

The adage you must be doing something right if people are talking about you has always given me pause, but in this instance, it rings true.

Brande Victorian

Jul 25, 20203 min read

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A Week Of Activism Brought Up A Lot Of Insecurities I Thought I'd Gotten Past

For the first 10 days or so of protests, I struggled to find my place in the civil rights movement currently unfolding before our eyes....

Brande Victorian

Jun 12, 20206 min read

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I Let My Relationship Status Ruin My Relationship With God

I was somewhere around the age of 15 when my subconscious began to internalize the idea that singleness was going to be a way of life for me

Brande Victorian

Dec 7, 20178 min read

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There's Always Another Opportunity If You Just Keep Doing You

One month ago I was in my feelings about fellow colleagues meeting Oprah; last week I got my chance.

Brande Victorian

Nov 12, 20177 min read

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I'm So Special A Black Man Made A 51-Minute Video So People Can Talk About How Disgustingly Fat

And 200-plus comments about what a "big black whale" I am confirm as much.

Brande Victorian

Oct 20, 20175 min read

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Reclaiming My Title

A Tale Of Being Burnt Out On Workplace Disrespect

Brande Victorian

Aug 17, 20174 min read

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What Y'all Really Want From A N-gga?

I know part of the body positivity wave is to say we don't need anyone -- not even men -- to affirm us, but does that automatically make

Brande Victorian

Aug 8, 20174 min read

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Love Your Body Event

Spend your Friday night with me, Samsung, and an amazing group of women as we show you how to love your body!

Brande Victorian

Aug 2, 20171 min read

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Thick Thighs Might Save Lives But Big Bodies Don't Exist For Your Comfort

The quickest way to ensure a conversation with me goes absolutely nowhere is to approach me on some big girl bullshit.

Brande Victorian

Jul 31, 20174 min read

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I Can See Through Leslie Jones' "Men Don't Like Me" Front, Right Through To Myself

Sometimes when you're a part of the undesirables you don't know any other way to be.

Brande Victorian

Jul 4, 20174 min read

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Do You Ask Men For What You Want?

Asking in no way guarantees you'll get what you want but, theoretically, it puts you one step closer to getting what it is that you desi

Brande Victorian

Jun 28, 20174 min read

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Contrary To What My Mama Taught Me, It's Too Hot To Worry About Covering Up My "Flaws"

I was 20 year's old before I wore a sleeveless top in public. Now I'm braving the heat in crop tops and short because, well, it&#39

Brande Victorian

Jun 13, 20173 min read

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It's A Shame People Yelling Things About My Weight In The Street Makes Me Feel Like Something&#3

I know the need to body shame me says more about the people doing it than it does me, but in those moments I do feel ashamed of my body and

Brande Victorian

Jun 6, 20175 min read

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For Once It Would Be Nice To Meet A Man Without A Situation

I'm over having to consider kids, wives, ex-girlfriends, live-in exes, live-in babymamas, trying to get my own place, no career-having--

Brande Victorian

May 30, 20174 min read

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32 Things I'm Excited About At 32

Today's my 32nd birthday but I feel like 30 again -- happy, optimistic, determined, bold, a little brave, and full of possibility.

Brande Victorian

May 10, 20172 min read

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Dating While Dieting Part 2: This Isn't Fun

When I got smaller, I realized that although I was dating more I was enjoying men less.

Brande Victorian

May 4, 20173 min read

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Sometimes A Compliment Is Just A Compliment

"You're so pretty" doesn't mean "You're so pretty I'd like to date you." It's a statement of fact, k

Brande Victorian

Apr 24, 20174 min read

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Niggas Get Curved Everyday B...You'll Be Alright

Here's how I handle it when it happens to me.

Brande Victorian

Apr 10, 20175 min read

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A Convo On Body Positivity And Curvy Confidence With The Grio

Check out the whole convo

Brande Victorian

Mar 31, 20171 min read

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That's Not How This Works: You Don't Get To Call Me Fat When I Don't Like You

If I'm fat today, I was fat a month ago when you were trying to take my fat ass to the movies, and that means you wanted my fat ass.

Brande Victorian

Mar 30, 20175 min read

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